Saturday Coord and lolita journeys

This weekend is also hot. It seems like the hallway is air conditioned, but the apartment isn’t.  We may end up getting a portable air conditioner, because window units are prohibited.

Today’s outfit was F+F Musical Palmer JSK with a half blouse from Little Dipper, black ankle socks and shoes from Antaina, and the petticoat from The Black Ribbon.  It is hot, which is why I picked the socks, but OH MY GOD they look bad.  And now I have this picture to remind me that the black socks are not a good idea.  They have the little lace cuff, but you can’t see it. It looks like normie socks. What the hell.

These shoes look so great with this dress though, and even my boyfriend said he really likes these shoes.  He also thought initially that the little grey fabric piece by my sleeves was supposed to be a hood, and that this was a hooded dress. Sadly, this is not the case, but Fanplusfriend will probably eventually get around to that cut.

On Instagram, I have noticed the #lolitajourney tag and I think it is such a cute idea.  Right now, there aren’t many posts (and thus I am too chicken to contribute on instagram), but I love the idea.  So I wanted to compare the first coord I ever put on instagram to today’s coord. It’s also a good comparision because it is the same JSK.  It was my first time wearing lolita to an anime con and I was super excited…and today I just went grocery shopping.

In 2016, I had the flat petticoat that came with the dress, a normie blouse from Target, and my bow flats (that I actually wore out today because I had to drive :p no driving in heels). Today, I had a poofier petticoat, proper shoes (for the picture), a proper half blouse…and I still feel like the old picture looks better.  The tights for one, and the second excuse I had is that the mirror set up is still not great.  In today’s picture, it looks almost like I am leaning towards the mirror, and I think my arms look a little fatter too.  But I’ve lost a little weight since 2016?!? I don’t have a scale at home anymore so I can’t keep track as well as I used to. Maybe I need to tone my arms or something.

I was kind of hoping that some signs of improvement would be visible in the picture, but I think most of the improvement is in my head instead.  I feel more confident wearing lolita fashion, and I don’t think I care nearly as much about fudging on some of the rules, especially if I am just wearing it alone and not with other lolitas.  Back in early 2016, I was also in the mindset that wearing lolita was a ~special occasions~ kind of fashion, which is fine.  However since moving to Oregon, I have not bothered reaching out to the local com yet for various reasons (“I’m shy” “Maybe I will just run into them naturally one of these days” “I’m moving again next year so why bother” etc) so I have ONLY worn it out myself (with my boyfriend) for errands.  I hope that by being a lonelita, I am not getting too lazy.

To improve on today’s coord, I think tights are the way to go, and my hair is pinned up in braids, but I think some nice navy hair clips would look good. I almost never show bags in coord pictures, but I think that is something I should start doing once I get some nicer bags.  I don’t have any black wristcuffs so I usually just wear these black bead bracelets, but I would like to get something for my arms.  And as always, I want to slim down more.

 

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March Sweets Parade – I actually did it for once

The month is almost over and my plans have gone mostly ignored, but I finally dressed up to go eat pastries today. I came to the conclusion that eating pastries alone while dressed up is really, really stressful.  I probably would not have done so if I did not also need to go to the grocery store next door.

I also really like the March freebie stickers on Line right now, so I have been using the heck out of them.  I will be sad when they expire in a few months. Anyway, today’s outfit was Fanplusfriend Musical Palmer JSK in Navy Blue, black blouse, black tights, and my navy shoes from Antaina. I only wore them for the picture. If this was for a meet, I would have worn them, but since it was just me going out to run errands, I switched to some black flats instead.

I was worried that the crap petticoat I bought off Aliexpress would be too long for this dress, but alas, it was perfect. That petticoat, as dubious as it’s origins are, has turned out to be really great, even though it is kind of scratchy.  So great that I keep forgetting to use the one that I got from The Black Ribbon last Black Friday. ಠ_ಠ What the hell.

I really need to alter this JSK at some point, because the right strap does nothing but slide down and drive me insane.  Otherwise, this is probably the best fitting JSK I currently own.

So I went to Tous les Jour and got some pastries but only ate the Fruit Pastry there. I had other grocery shopping to do and wasn’t feeling super hungry. I was even thinking that this pastry would be super easy to make yourself. Just make and bake some good, cute pastry shells (that is the hard part), make whipped cream (I am pretty good at this), add cute fruit and dust with powdered sugar. The fruits are strawberry, green grape, purple grape, raspberry (it is there but hiding) and blackberry.  Maybe not the most cost efficient thing to make, but it could be done. So I want to try this sometime.

I have mentioned before that wearing a darker outfit like this during warmer spring months (even if it doesn’t feel like spring quite yet) is difficult for me, and I feel like I stepped out of my comfort zone with this. But it looks cute. I am glad I did it.

Museum Date

Huh Sweet Lacy Basket was released at AP USA on Friday but I didn’t know this because I immediately deleted the email I got from AP USA last week. WHOOPS.  Checking their site now, only the ivory JSK sold out, so all is well. So far. And it looks like Banquet Celeste partially restocked on AP USA, with all JSK colorways back. I could buy both of these for the low low cost of $600. I put them in my basket and now to suffer until I get a job.

The reason for this post is actually to chronicle the date I went on today with my wonderful boyfriend, who proceeded to further mess up his sleep schedule just so he could come see me. ❤ I am pretty damn lucky.

The local art museum had a special exhibit of a jade suit, which is a burial tradition done for a few hundred years in Han Dynasty China.  The jade suit is supposed to protect the body against decay and bad influences.  It was a really cool exhibit!

There were a ton of jade items on display, such as this ring with dragon, phoenix and tapir designs on it. A lot of the jade used back then was nephrite, so it has the super pale, very slightly green tint, while most jade that people use these days is jadeite. These are very similar in hardness, and can’t be cut with steel, which is why carvings are so valuble – it is very difficult to do. Also, every time I hear ‘jadeite’ or ‘nephrite’, I think of the villians from Sailor Moon. Hah. There was also a piece of red jade that I really liked, and apparently it is an extra rare variant of jadeite.

In addition to this exhibit, we also looked around the rest of the art museum. It is difficult to cover all in one day, and after 2 or 3 hours of walking around, I am super tired.

This was also the first time I went out in public with my boyfriend while wearing a coord.  A pretty toned down coord, but a coord nonetheless.

This is Fanplusfriend’s Chiffon Lover JSK, and everything else is offbrand.  I didn’t want to be too over the top (as if I am ever over the top in anything).  It was a nice comfy outfit that didn’t draw too much attention.  I did ask him later if being out in public with me dressed up is an issue for him, but he is fine with it! I know some people have significant others who don’t like going out when they are dressed up, but fortunately this does not seem to be my case! I am so lucky.

Coffeeshop Meetup

On Saturday, I attended a met up at a coffee shop. Honestly, I was feeling kind of down about going to meets in general after the donut meet in January, but I was pleasantly surprised!

I wore my lavender Mushroom Forest JSK by Long Ears and Sharp Ears.  I wore a taobao blouse underneath, and an H&M cardigan because it was COLD. Fleece white tights from Target (I need more of these, by the way), a white F+F underskirt, and shoes from Amazon. The pink of my cardigan, shoes, and dress did not match.  I probably could have switched out the shoes for a different pair of pink shoes, but I didn’t really care that much.

I didn’t really plan out this coord ahead of time, and like I kind of mentioned, the last meetup (even though it was a different group) really left me feeling down for various reasons (which I didn’t really talk about before. I think I can best describe it as feeling like I didn’t belong?)  So when getting ready for this, I mentally decided that I would probably not go to more meets for awhile, because maybe a break would be what I need to become more excited about things again.

Devil Kitty was interested in my shoes and kept getting in the way while I was trying to take coord pictures.  So here is your cat picture!

The coffeeshop we went to is actually very close to where I take my Mom to the doctor, so it was nice to discover this place.  The shop itself is very chic and full of hip young people.  It doesn’t have a huge selection of items, but there were pastries and tea.

I ordered some Earl Grey, and while it did take forever to get my tea, it was some of the best tea I have ever had. I mean, most Earl Grey teas taste the same to me, but this tea was prepared just right for my tastes. Not too hot, not over steeped. Most coffee shops I go to will give you boiling hot water with the tea bag still in it, and if it is non-herbal tea, then it will usually taste oversteeped and the only way to resolve that is to dump in a ton of sugar. And then you usually can’t drink it for another 10+ minutes! But at this coffee shop, I could drink my tea right away. I was so happy.

I got a lemon-ish scone, and it was very good.  Their pastry selection was not huge, but this was a pretty quality scone.  I had no idea what flavor it was until I ate some of it, so I am glad that gamble ended well.

So I mentioned that I was feeling kind of down about going out, but I am a staunch believer that if you mark on the event page that you are going, you either go to the event or you let them know (either via text or changing your status or whatever) that you can’t make it. Half of the people who responded as going ended up not showing up, and a few people did message the host, but others just ghosted the whole event.  So I was kind of glad I did show up, because I imagine it feels crappy to try and put together an event and have no one show up.

But more importantly, I had FUN. We chatted about the fashion (which is kind of why I go to these things) and other topics where I felt like I could contribute to the conversations.  I feel inspired again to go to more meetups so I can chat more.  So I am really thankful for this meetup, and glad that I dragged myself out of the house.

Donut Meetup and shenanigans

On Sunday, there was a donut meetup I went to.

Proper coord was AP Aquarium Carnival Special Set OP, a white flower lace cardigan from Target, Sosic Shop shoes, white tights, and an underskirt from Fanplusfriend.  I like the idea of underskirts, but they always end up looking oddly uneven. I have also found that the poofier I try, the shorter the skirt ends up being (this makes perfect sense if you think about it), so I am going to need to acquire MANY more underskirts.  Right now, I have this blue one, a pink one and a white one.  But looking back at this, I don’t think the silhouette looks the way I want.

I save all my coords by year using the collection function on Instagram, and noticed that when I wore this OP last (Nakakon 2017), I also coorded it with this damn cardigan.  It’s for the best, since the sleeves feel a little tight.

None of my selfies looked any good either. I tried the headbow, and I think I may be defeated as far as headbows go. I ended up putting my hair into little bear-ear buns and clipping in a ton of bow clips. Another thing to add to my next taobao order.

Sunday mornings are traditionally the day I take my Mom to go buy her groceries.  I did not have time to wear normal clothes, come home, and then get ready for the meet up, so I dressed down my OP to go grocery shopping! I would have worn a proper coord if I was shopping alone, but Mom wasn’t feeling well and I didn’t want the extra stress of my outfit PLUS dealing with her. So this is without the petticoat or underskirt, and fewer hair clips. I also buttoned up the cardigan to cover the front bow.  Is this that soft lolita variant that Misako Aoki talks about sometimes?? (⌒▽⌒);;

Parking sucked at the Donut Meet, but I knew this going in due to the part of town we were in, and also noon on a Sunday is prime brunch time.  We went to a specialized donut shop/bar where they have a variety of different donut flavors, and also many that are vegan or gluten free.  This is actually the same shop I went to for a donut meetup last year, but it was with a different group of people.  I got a very basic long donut with sparkly sprinkles on it…the same one I got last time (I just checked my post from last July).  Ha, I usually like to try new things but I guess I am easily drawn in by the appeal of sparkly donuts.  There was a listing for a Boston Cream Pie donut, but they were sold out.

There was a great turn out for the meetup, which was great! However, the donut shop is very small and doesn’t have much seating (plus they were already busy), so the tables were cramped and I felt pretty anxious.  It’s also difficult to hear all the conversations when sitting in a row.  One of my friends then texted me about some plans we had made for that afternoon, so I decided to leave a little early. We got our group pictures taken (had to get it from someone’s Instagram though…) and then I went home.

I was planning on wearing my super toned down version to go see my other friends (a first! They haven’t seen me wear lolita in person yet!) but then I noticed my leg was all bloody. ಠ▃ಠ Okay it wasn’t too bad, but I had to wash the tights immediately to get the stain out.  Somewhere I hit my knee and it actually bled…I’m glad I didn’t get it on my dress.

So I changed into jeans and went to see my other friends, and thus concludes the donut meetup report. I guess everyone else went to the local art musuem and took more pictures.  From their pictures, it looks like they had a great time.

Here is a bonus picture of my cat, trying to cuddle with my shoes. This is even before I wore them out. She is so strange.

Bakery Meetup

Yesterday I went to a meetup at a vegan bakery called Mudpie.  It was with the com I am less familiar with, so I was a little nervous. Usually, they dress much better than I do, plus the whole thing about being nervous around new people.  But it is good practice for when I have to pick up my entire life and move to a new timezone.

My first coord of 2018 is…lackluster.  I am wearing Fanplusfriend’s Puck’s Prank JSK (with the flower applique on part of the bodice but I am covering it up with the cardigan), an H&M blouse (covered) and cardigan that does not perfectly match. My teaparty shoes are from Sosic Shop. Wearing tights are fleece lined tights because it is cold. I did actually plan to wear exactly this because I have gained a few pounds over the holidays, and decided I would rather wear something that fits comfortably.  Also using the questionable Aliexpress petticoat here.

The ribbon pin was originally from a beret I never wore, and since I was going to originally wear a headbow, I tried to make the cardigan look a little more cute. It was a moot point, because I decided the headbow looked weird and stupid on my head. It returned to the beret, and I decided to try wearing it.

Consensus is that yes, I am wearing this beret okay and it looks cute. Actually, I really like it. I am thinking of getting more berets in different colors to wear with other outfits now.

I was really worried that I was going to stick out like a sore thumb with my mediocre outfit, but there there was a range of outfits, so I did not feel like the worst dressed one of all (like I was prepared to be). But everyone at the meet was really nice, and that is what is most important. It’s especially nice to meet people in person when you have seen them post in the FB groups and finally be able to put a name to a face.

Everyone got a chocolate chip scone. Not sure if this is one of the vegan or gluten-free items, as I just panicked and picked something that looked tasty. I am trying to get into the habit of looking up menus online before I go somewhere so I can budget a bit better, but Mudpie just says that the daily baked good selection changes daily. Okay~ It was really good though.

Overall, I had a good time, and I am excited to go to more meets. That is kind of the way I feel after all meets though. I think most of them have been pretty good, regardless of which group I am meeting up.  I am pretty fortunate that nothing too crazy or dramatic happens at meetups, and that people I know usually aren’t involved with any drama online.

Unrelated rant now. I usually take pictures on my phone and then transfer to Google Drive/Backup and Sync and upload to imgur on my laptop.  However, Backup and Sync likes to somehow turn itself off and then I can’t get it to work again without reinstalling it. So I decided to see if I should just download the Imgur app so I can upload directly from my phone. It will not allow me to upload images and add them to an already existing album- so I would have to make a new album every time I upload multiple pictures. ಠ▃ಠ And I just noticed my text face app in Chrome deleted all the text faces I custom added to it. Why. I am not succeeding at technology today…

Thanksgiving

My family held Thanksgiving this past weekend, and it was really wonderful. Also, this was the first time I intentially wore lolita around my family!  Although, a very, very toned down coord, but it was something.

I am wearing F+F’s Puck’s Prank OP and a (gasp) normie blouse I got some somewhere. Plain tights and bow flats.  The petticoat is one I got for cheap from Aliexpress with the intention of sewing two together to make a super fluffy one. Actually, this petticoat is fairly decent.

Wearing this dress, I was reminded of how much I love this dumb OP that isn’t really an OP. I am so tempted to go buy the other colorway of it. But no, I am saving my money to move/buy brand/not starve to death.

Speaking of food…


Cherry pie~

I like taking pictures of food.

Most years, my family will go around the table and talk about the things we are thankful for, but we forgot to do this, twice. I am thankful for a lot of things.  I am thankful for my Mom (even if she drives me nuts) and my brother and sister-in-law, and my boyfriend. Also thankful for my friends I’ve met over the years in Grad School and College, and my online friends, and the people in my comm. Very thankful for some of the people in my lab (very strongly the opposite of thankful for other people though).  I am also very thankful for cats. All cats. My cats, your cats, my friends cats, my boyfriend’s cat, every cat ever.

It’s been a stressful year for various reasons, but I finally got to be active in a comm and that makes me happy, so I am glad I got to do that.